I just returned home from a meeting with a new participant of my personal coaching program. This participant of mine has been working with a company for a very long time. According to him, there are some ‘office politics’ going on at his work place at the moment. It would suffice to say that this was putting him in a difficult predicament; he did not feel comfortable working there anymore and wanted to venture out on his own.

However, having worked for a monthly salary for more than twenty years, he had fears to come out of the ‘comfort zone’ and try something on his own. As he was quite used to getting his paycheck every end of the month for a long time, he feared he may not have the money when he needed it, especially for his school going children. He was worried if his business failed, as he would not have anything to fall back on! He also mentioned that he had his housing loan, car loan and some credit cards bills to settle!

As he went on and on and on, I just smiled and listened. After a while, he stopped. I asked him, “what do you want?” He said that all his heart wanted was a peace of mind, a happy family, a monthly income of RM8000 working on something that he loved and of course to settle all his debts. As he finished saying that, he quickly voiced out his doubts; whether that was possible at all, whether he was being greedy (his present take back home pay was about RM3000), whether he was too old for all these, and etc.

I stopped him right there and then. He was taken aback. Firstly, I told him, it was not greedy to earn more money. With more money, he can provide a better life for his family, better education for his children and live a more comfortable life. He could also help others if he had some extra cash in hand. He nodded. Then I added that, from my point of view, a person is only greedy when he wants something that belongs to someone else! He smiled and nodded again.

I continued. Secondly, I told him, make a decision. He looked puzzled. I explained saying that he should make a decision whether he seriously wanted the ‘peace of mind, a happy family, a monthly income of RM8000 working on something he loved and to settle all his debts’, or not?

He said that he did but he was also quick to add that he did not know how, where or when to start. I smiled and said to leave that to me. I told him to make a firm decision first, whether that was what his heart actually wanted. Again, he looked at me, puzzled.

I took a deep breath and as I let go, I realized that it was going to be a long session with this wonderful being.

Then, I explained to him. One of the reasons he had YET to attain what he wanted in life was because he had not made a firm decision whether he actually wanted them or not (the goals), in the first place!

He was taken aback. My participant listed out the goals he wanted to achieve earlier and then again lamented on the problems he was facing. I could not help but smile. He stopped and asked me, humbly, to explain in detail what I meant by making a firm decision.

I said that majority of people in the world want a better income, better home to stay in, a better car to drive and so on; in general, everyone wants a better life. However, to own all these, or anything at all, one must decidedly make a firm decision that he or she actually want these things. In other words, one must be willing to face whatever obstacles that life throws at them and do whatever it takes to achieve their goals. Taking a deep breath, I added, “And, of course, by adhering to Nature’s Laws, positively and truthfully!

Just as my participant was about to say something, I cut him off and continued, “Those who have firmly made their decision, would not have any complains over whatever difficulty they go through. Whatever they encounter, they would face with great strength in the mind and body. They would work on the solution with a firm believe that, the very same Creator who threw the problem at them, has also given them the solution. What they would do is work with whatever they have been equipped with, in other words, work with whatever they have in hand, and seek ways to solve their problem. As they are doing this, they would do their best to learn the ‘real’ lessons in between the lines, what Nature is actually teaching them!”

As I finished, he nodded silently. There was a moment of silence as the waiter came to refill my drink. When the waiter left, my participant asked me what he should do. I said, “Make up your mind. Decide. That is the first step!” He nodded and said firmly that he had decided. Then he asked me what to do next.

I said to him to go home and clear his mind off his problems and start focusing on his goal. Following that, I suggested he listed down the talents he possessed, his hobbies and of course what his heart wanted to do the most. He noted down what I said. Then, he asked me what he should do next. I looked at him intently and said, “Do That First! I will tell you what to do later.” Clumsily he said okay. I laughed at his gesture. Then we had dinner and he updated me on his life.

Just as he was about to leave, he turned around and looked at me, looking worried and said, “Do you think I can make it?” Without missing a beat, I replied, “Honestly speaking I do not know! No one would know! However, there is an old saying, The Creator would help those who help themselves!”. I ended our conversation for the day by quoting one of my favorite quotes by a wise man, “My friend, walk by faith, and not by sight!”

For the first time for the day, I saw him with a real smile, a smile from the HEART!

The Uneducated One is a financial market trader, author and a motivational speaker. He has helped companies and countless individuals achieve their goals and desires. Sign up for our FREE e-course and find out how you can now live a truly happy, healthy and wealthy life at;

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